Friends

After coming home from NH to some very unpleasant drama from someone who we had thought of as a really good friend, I had just about given up on having "real world" friends. I never really have had many anyway, a few good ones along the way but usually end up growing apart with them as our lives and (usually jobs) change throughout the years. Most of the people I feel closest too I only talk to online and some I have never in met in "real life".

I was happy when Nicole texted me and asked if the girls and I wanted to get together. We met at Sandy Point Beach for a few hours. Pie, Sammie and Cadence had fun playing in the sand and water (which actually wasn't too cold after all the hot weather we've had.) Nicole and I had a nice time talking and catching up after being gone for the summer.

It was nice to have my faith in friendship restored and look forward to spending time with them again soon. 

17

Seventeen years ago, I was getting ready to walk down the asile to marry my best friend.

We've been through a lot together and end up closer and stronger everytime. Sadly, we don't get to spend the day together, as always when work calls he's gotta go but it's ok.

We will have many, many more times to share together.

I couldn't ask for a better husband or father to our girls. I feel so lucky and very blessed.

Part of the village

Someone I know recently got herself in a lot of legal trouble and most of the comments I've heard people say is that it was expected. "She's a sociopath just like her mother." "She was a bad seed from the beginning."

While I don't condone what she did and completely agree that she needs to be accountable for her actions I feel like the "village it takes to raise a child" let her down.

So many members of her family could have stepped up and been a positive influence instead of spreading rumors and looking down their noses at her and her mother. She could have had a very special relationship with her aunt who shared some of her interests but that didn't happen, they virtually have no relationship at all.

I feel responsible too. I could have stepped up and been a bigger part of her life. After all I lived right next to her for a large portion of her childhood. But I didn't do it, and now I wonder if everyone who was part of her village had done something to influence her in a positive way maybe she wouldn't be in so much trouble now. I very strongly believe that when a child is told they will never amount to anything never think they are worth more than that.

Already?

When we were outside this morning playing in the big puddle after all the rain last night, I noticed how many of the leave are changing already. Sigh.

I guess I can't complain too much. We did have an awesome summer but I am not at all ready to see winter. Hopefully we will have a nice long autum and the snow will hold off until next year. I for one, couldn't care less if we have a white Chrismas - unless it was on a white sandy beach somewhere!

We had 2 more sunflowers open up this morning too. I guess there might be a little bit of summer left to hang on to afterall.

Back at it.

It's been about a month since I've updated. I just didn't have much of a chance to write while we were in NH. The girls had a hard time napping in the hotel room and that's usually when I have enough quiet time to blog.

It's been nice to be home. Our house was still standing, dogs still alive but the yard and garden was a mess. I've been working on trying to get things back in order before winter, which feels like is right on our heels. Our sunflowers look like they could touch the sky!

 We have picked some tomatoes, squash, carrots, onions, and have 6 pumpkins and 3 butternut squash still growing. Hopefully next summer we will be able to give a garden more attention, although with two little helpers around wanting to pick everything they see, maybe the garden was better off with us gone!

The dogs were happy to see us. Tig has done really well with the girls but seems to have forgotten how to walk on a leash. We attempted to walk on the waterfront on Monday and he just about drug me down the path. He also seems to have an issue with other women, makes me wonder why. He's fine with me but didn't like anyone else. Guess we will just have to keep working on socialization with him. I really have my hands full with him and the girls though.